Most often in our everyday life, people are faced with the pressure of conforming to set standards of how they are supposed to live and/ behave. We often find ourselves trying to fit in to pre-set conditions and ways of life and a lot of times we concentrate on trying to fit in, on trying to find common traits. We spend more time trying to identify what groups us together as human beings instead of nurturing our own true identities. Uniqueness means the embodiment of incomparable characteristics; the only specimen of a given kind.
However, life is like being given a notepad to write your story. It is not a competition in which you try to outdo one another, you cannot tell your story from another person’s viewpoint and you cannot copy what the next person is writing. You are your own man (or woman), running your own race, in your own lane. You need to tell your story the way you know and understand it because nobody understands it better than you. Everyone has their own story, different from each other but interesting in its own way, do not be afraid to be you, do not be afraid to live your own life. We are all human beings trying to figure out life in our own different ways. Do not try to out-compete anyone, rather use your energy to outdo the person you were yesterday.
There is a reason why God created you differently, there is a reason why you think differently and behave differently. Thinking differently should never scare you it’s a sign that you are brave enough to think for yourself. Most of the times we are so cautious in life not wanting to go against those we love, our parents, our partners, our colleagues but the most important thing you can ever do is to be cautious enough not to go against yourself.
Those who reached great heights in life were never versions of someone else, they were the best version of themselves. They did not try to imitate anyone, rather they walked their own path. The same thing with you, you can appreciate the greatness in others but never be tempted to imitate anyone. Let the greatness in others and the heights that they have reached be an inspiration and eye opener to you that anything is possible if you are determined enough but never wake up one day and try to be someone else, be yourself, be you, and be unique. Define yourself, label yourself and other people’s labels will not stick on you
Believe that you are the one and there is no one else that has the capabilities or talent that you have because you are unique. Believe that you are the one that can see that idea that you have to fruition, believe that you are the one who can make it happen. You are the one who can visualise that vision and no one else can understand and see it exactly the way you see it and if you know your worth the planet will give you what you’re worth.
So instead of waiting for people to label you, brand yourself the way God created you. Stop imitating other people, appreciate other people but do not try to be their copy. If God wanted you to be those people, he would have created you as them and not you. Accept who you are and develop a habit of appreciating yourself more. Keep your flaws in perspective but do not let them hold you back. You are an amazing being if you allow yourself a chance to express yourself to the world. The world is waiting for you, the universe is watching to see you come out and express yourself.
Limitations of being different
A lot of people are afraid to be different because if you are different, the world will judge you. Being unique however does not come without challenges. People have an inclination to question those who are indiscreet as to let their differences show. Our society is more often than enough antagonistic to uniqueness and tries to reduce it or oppose it. A lot of times, being different is mistakenly perceived as being selfish. These misconceptions can actually act in dissuading people from living their uniqueness. However there is a great latitude of freedom that can be exercised in being unique without encroaching upon the rights of others and within the limits of the obligations of co-operation with others. The battle of self-realisation is not easy, it’s for the bold. In the end, do what you want people to remember about you. What will you be remembered for? It is not easy, it is hard but you have to fight that battle of self-realisation.
Steps to help you in living a unique life
Accept who you are
You can’t do anything in life until and unless you accept who you are. Therefore the first thing that you need to do is come to terms with the reality of who you are. You don’t choose to be born in a certain location, to be born a certain race therefore these are things that you cannot change and are also things that you should not be ashamed of but cherish. Accept your birth circumstances, accept the things beyond your control and find a way to live with them. Stop wasting time complaining and wishing to change circumstances that you can’t.
Decide on where you want to reach and write down your plan to get there
Planning is very important in your life, the Bible says in Luke 14:28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? (KJV). Therefore for every great purpose you have, you need to plan it carefully. Write down your plan clearly, if you can’t visualise where you want to be then there is no route to take you there. You need to be clear and specific. Life has got a lot of destructions, Invest time in planning where you want to be; for a man who fails to plan has already planned to fail.
If you do not have a clear plan you will be led by feelings and life’s destructions will throw you off course. Clearly written down plans will always be there to guide you when you are out of focus and out of enthusiasm. It’s good to think but it’s not enough if you do not put down boldly those thoughts and engrave them somewhere where they will be a constant reminder to you.
Execute that plan
Planning alone is not enough, graves are full of plans that never saw the dawn of light. Therefore if you have plans, execute them or else they will just remain ideas scribed on paper.
Rather than procrastinating wake up and do something, no matter how small but a single step walked is better than 10 planned. You cannot do everything in a single day, you cannot achieve that goal in a single day but doing something everyday assures you that you are a step in the direction to your goals.
Benefits of being Different
Unless you exercise your individuality, you will never enjoy the benefits of who you are. Being different should be cherished not opposed. Nature cherishes uniqueness, no two individuals can perceive the same thing in the same way. Each person is a centre of their own universe, being unique assures you a special place in the world and a special worth that is only attached to you. It is your most priceless possession. If we were all the same we would not be able to make any contribution to one another because we would all be equipped with the same abilities. Being different is therefore a uniting factor among human beings and should never be used as a dividing tool.
No human being is individually sufficient to go through life alone but if we are all individually operating in our uniqueness then we can achieve more. No man is an island and no man stands alone. Every individual is unique and uniquely purposive and that is how the irreplaceable value of each individual’s uniqueness is realised.
Differences make specialization possible and leads to the attainment of a common greater purpose. If we fail to perform our purpose as individuals then the whole fails. Embracing our differences leads to specialization and through co-operation, this specialization leads to progress.
Hold on to the true you, hold on to your uniqueness, and hold on to that thing that makes you different from the rest, that’s the most precious thing than any other, that’s your asset. You don’t have to be like everyone, you don’t have to do things like everyone else, you are your own self, create your own rules and break them as you see fit. Walk your own path, define your own route because this life will one day be over but before that happens, you have to live!
I challenge you today, to be yourself, to be unique, to believe in yourself to have faith in your unique capabilities and to live unapologetically, stop apologizing for being yourself, stop apologizing for being you! Every time you walk into a room, know that you are unique and the only one of your kind in that room, you are special.
Be yourself, you are the best thing that the world needs, your uniqueness is what the world seeks. Live unapologetically and never apologize for being yourself and remember the day you will start living your life according to everybody else’ opinion that’s the beginning of the end.
Do not be afraid to be you, do not be afraid to live, and do not be afraid to be unique!